...so say it na!atleast talk to someone
i had a long session with my freind today and i realzied that how important it is to vent out!im not judging anyone here, but men genrally don't let things out, heck even their best freinds wouldnt know whats going on in their lives. I am just thorughly confused as to what goes on in their heads, that movie"what Women want" it should be "what MEN want" no jokes aprt there is always a need to confide, to tell someone and even a third person at times. "he says that i am the one he can speak to and thats it, but i have hurt him so now he wont even talk to me, i cant leave him like this, i can fix him". No you can't, its not an obligation, its a two way street, i will say this again that im not judging anyone here but this is just a bulid up and i just dont understand how you can just question and talk to yourself and obviously it juts bouces back and in vain, result???No result. how can there be a result if there is just one judge and one lawyer, one jury, all the same!NO VERDICT HAS BEEN REACHED!
it's like playing squash alone, there will be a lot of noise, but no final answer, heck not even a tie!
Talking thinsg out helps. Thats my take on things.It might not resolve but it ceratinly gives a broader perspective.
sorry if this post offended anyone.Not intentional at all.
posted by ~meyum & a half~ at 4:06 PM
14 Comments:
I don't favor blabbling all the time but I think it is important at times to share your feelings with your loved ones. But you have to be careful because sometimes it backfires on you. The last thing you need is to be emotionally blackmailed or manipulated :)
Men in general like to boss around, let it be the feelings, problems or thoughts. Its difficult for them to share (bcos deep inside they feel its like surrendring) that i wasnt able to handle the situation so now i need ur help, ur suggestion - which for most men is unacceptable. Some learn to share, mostly bcos to gain the trust in between (friends, beloveds) but mark my word, if their personal thing that he shared ever leaked out from ur side its like killing them, killing their ego.
Ahh well this is just a personal perception based on the men i know :p
faraz...are you real? what a sane way for a man to think!! i thought all men were petrified of sharing...ok ok. im generalizing. i think growth and maturity is higher in women for the simple reason they share. but then yes, agreed, dynamics are all different!
verdict?ah!its actually just stuff that was on my mind. yes even i was generalizing things a little bit..but really faraz thanks for sharing that one and atif,who wants anyone to surrender...only say it to someone rather than analysing and solving evrything on your own..
no offense intended.
just passing by and my 2 cents.. if i may..
adding to faraz.. i find men to change a lot as they move in life... espeically in the mid 20ish to 30ish.. and most ppl find it hard to bite their own words.. so they opt to keep it inside lest they change their opinion later... and hell its a kick to sulk inside and the morbid addiction.. "its a dangerous but irresistible past time"
... beware what u say as we become slaves of our own words living in the dungeons of fulfilling customized expectation...
yes anonymous, but i was not point to that..i was merely saying that when you say things, talk them out(regardless of the fact that you might change your opinion later)it help to analyse what you might be going through and best to find a perspective that is not your own.
but yes, there is no rule to it
its good to break/(have no) rules ...
~meyumposts~ i was talking about the general male psychology not about myself :) in an online test i found my brain was a female one *rotfl*
ah!but"jonybr" iwasnt refering to you...and femele brain eh!that should be good:)
I love this post....from my experiences, I think men dont tend to share as much as we women do....but give them time and space...after sniffing you out completely they do conclude whether they want to share or want us to just have telepatheic communications!
Ahhhh, the intricacies of men-women relationship.
:-)
Men share more with men, and women share more with women. That is a general rule. Men talking to women and vice-versa happens when certain comfort zone develops between them, when they feel that the other person won't emotionally blackmail him/her. Faraz's point.
Personally, I think in a relationship, one must talk things out. You need some vent, if it is not through the mouth, it will be through other actions.
Also, if you truly understand the other person, you will know if and what is wrong.
Just my 0.02 rupees.
Mohib
@ Kat
lol
ehem!i am amazed how something like this can arouse so much dialogue.but thats great and musch needed
by the way i didnt particulary mean men wanting to talk with womem..i just generally wanted to say that they need to vent
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